The other day I had the honour of
making a presentation to the faculty and students of NICMAR University, Pune on
the topic: Values and Ethics: Revisiting Indian Knowledge System.
As I hurriedly concluded my
presentation drawing the attention of the audience to a verse from Yajurveda, “…
may we look on one another with the eye of a friend” (xxvi-18), a young lady
from the front row of the auditorium posed a question: “some people, for no
valid reason, shout at you and you can’t give them back but it causes a lot of
stress. How to handle that stress? Am I to simply accept it? But it causes a lot
of stress … a lot of stress.”
I could see the pain of it writ
large in her face. I did respond to her question, though hurriedly. Nevertheless,
we shall now examine it in detail.
First
things first: Let us first understand what stress is. Stress is the body’s
response to a stressor. A stressor is a trigger that may cause one to
experience physical, emotional, or mental distress and pressure. In the instant
case, the stressor is: the uncivilized behaviour of the person who yelled at
the lady for no valid reason. This rude behaviour triggered a feeling of being
overwhelmed and she could not cope with the pressures caused by it.
A
stressful situation triggers a cascade of stress hormones which produce
well-orchestrated physiological changes in our body. A stressful incident makes
the heart pound and breathing quicken. Muscles tense up. Beads of sweat appear.
This
kind of reaction to a stressful event is also known as the “fight-or-flight”
response. For, it evolved as a survival mechanism. It enables people to react
quickly to life-threatening situations—activates one to fight the threat off or
flee to safety.
Unfortunately,
there is a flip side to it: the body can also overreact to stressors that are
not life-threatening such as the yelling of somebody at you, traffic jams,
deadlines at work, etc.
Over
the years, researchers have learned how and why these reactions occur. When a
person encounters a threat, say noticed a cobra on the path, the eyes send the
information to the amygdala—the part of the brain that handles emotional
processing. Interpreting the images and perceiving them as dangerous, amygdala instantly
sends a distress signal to the hypothalamus.
In
turn, hypothalamus communicates the threat to the rest of the body through the
autonomic nervous system, which consists of two components: One, sympathetic
nervous system that functions as a gas pedal in a car, and two, parasympathetic
nervous system that functions as a break.
On
receipt of a message from hypothalamus, sympathetic nervous system by providing
a burst of energy to the body, triggers a fight or flight response to the perceived
threat. Once the threat is passed, parasympathetic nervous system calms the
body by promoting a “rest and digest” response.
On receipt of a distress signal
through sympathetic nervous system, adrenal
glands also get activated. They respond by pumping the hormone epinephrine into
the bloodstream. The circulation of epinephrine in the body brings a number of physiological
changes: heart beats faster, pulse rate and blood pressure go up. Breathing
becomes more rapid. Epinephrine also triggers the release of sugar into the
bloodstream. All these changes happen so fast that without being aware of them,
we even jump out of the path of the cobra well before we realize what we are
doing.
Once the surge of epinephrine
subsides, the hypothalamous activates the second channel of the response
system: HPA axis. It consists of hypothalamus, pituitary gland and adrenal
gland. This axis aids the brain to keep the ‘gas pedal’ pressed down. In the
event of brain continuing to perceive the threat, hypothalamus releases
corticotropin-release hormone. Travelling to pituitary gland, it will trigger
the release of adrenocorticotropic hormone. This, in turn, travels to adrenal
glands and nudges them to release cortisol. Thus, the body remains on high
alert.
Once the threat passes, cortisol
levels fall and the parasympathetic nervous system applies brake and dampens
the stress response. But many people fail to apply brakes on stress. This leads
to chronic low level of stress, which is likely to cause health problems at a
later date. Persistent release of epinephrine damages blood vessels. It also
increases blood pressure. In turn, the risk of heart attacks or strokes stand
enhanced. Increased levels of cortisol may also lead to overweight.
Fortunately, we can learn the
techniques of managing stress responses. Psychologists say that stress is
produced not by events themselves but by one’s reaction to events (stressors). It
is precisely because of this that we see people reacting to a given stressor
differently.
For instance, let us take the
lady’s problem of somebody yelling at her for her no fault as an example and
see how two people react to the same problem differently. The man who gives
least importance to such yelling believing that it was the habit of the yeller
(yo tho pagal hai, aise chillata hai) and deserves no
attention, simply walks away from it. On the other hand, the man who takes it
as personal insult cannot but brood over it: “Of all the people why to me? I
behave so soberly, never tread on others’ toes, I speak so gently, and yet why
this man yell at me? That too, in front of so many?” If you keep on agonising
like that over what had happened for days together, your hypothalamus will keep
HPA axis active —‘the gas pedal’ remains pressed down. Which means, release of
hormones into bloodstream continuously, which in turn, keeps the body on high
alert. This results in chronic stress that can later lead to cardiovascular
problems.
Instead, realising the fact that it is our thoughts that influence our emotions, and it is these emotions that influence hormonal secretions and our behaviour, if we could reframe our thoughts about the stressor—rude behaviour/yelling, etc.—we can certainly help ourselves in reducing feelings of stress. Suppose in the instant case, if we could think of the yeller as a man with no culture and hence his yelling merits no cognizance, we may be able to walk out of the incident coolly. Which means, we can manage the stress emanating from the scene appreciably.
Research indicates that such
cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) works better in managing stress.
Here, it is in order to quote what lord Krishna said in Gita: “yaḥ sarvatrā nabhisnehaḥs, tat-tat prāpya śubhāśubham, / nā bhinandati na dveṣṭi, tasya prajñā pratiṣṭhitā (2.57)—He who is without affection on any side, who does not rejoice or loathe as he obtains good or evil, his intelligence is firmly set”. Such a man is termed by him as a Sthitaprajña. A Sthitaprajña is not disturbed by the touches of outward things. He does not rejoice over good (adoration from a colleague/boss), nor lament at the bad (yelling of a stranger/boss). So, his/her prajñā— intelligence remains stable. A stable mind can rationally analyse a given situation and wisely steer out of it with the least stress.
We may have to therefore cultivate
the state of being Vīta-rāga-bhaya-krodhah—free from
attachment, fear and anger (Gita
2.56)—as CBT for managing stress. Are you wondering: Easier said than done? But
then, is there any alternative remedy?
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A reader of this piece sent a whatsApp message to me pointing out that I have missed to mention about ‘’counselling’ as a tool to manage stress. Yes, I should have talked about it.
ReplyDeleteI also missed to talk about the difference between ‘accepting’ a stressor and ‘ignoring’ it. In the instant case, the questioner wondered about the yelling: “Am I to accept it?” No, one should not ‘accept’ it, for it means ‘haplessness’ and this leads to frustration and depression. A more difficult situation to handle. On the other hand, ‘ignoring’ the mischief of a yeller is a conscious decision. Hence, it paves the way for better management of stress.
If one finds it difficult to substitute better emotions such as laughter, hope, gratefulness, compassion, etc., in place of emotions caused by stressor, and stress becomes more threatening, it is better to consult a psychologist/psychiatrist, who being non-judgemental, may guide one come out of stressful situations faster.